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Driving Miss Daisy

Quilt Therapy Posted on June 28, 2018 by TK HarrisonJune 25, 2018

My husband grew up with two aunts on his mother’s side of the family, Aunt Lynne and Aunt Belle. His father was an only child so those two aunts were nearly all of the extended family that he had. His mother was the oldest daughter, followed by those mentioned above. When I came into the family (26+ years ago), both of his aunts embraced me quickly, but Aunt Lynne was ever the inquisitor. She wanted to know everything about me! Where I grew up, who my kinfolk were, what schools I went to, etc. etc.

She also had a funny bone. If she could get your goat, you could darned well bet she would do it! And laugh, my goodness, she found so many things to laugh about you would find yourself laughing just because she was laughing…then you’d wonder why you were laughing!

One of her favorite times of the year was the annual family and friends reunion that is held at my in-law’s (or out-law’s, depending on who’d show up) over the July 4th holiday. When I first ventured down (I lived in Missouri at the time) to one of the reunions, it was the summer before I married my husband. At that time, there were well over 50 people who camped out in my in-law’s backyard and many more who stopped by to hug the necks and catch up with those who attending the reunion. And right there in the thick of things, was Aunt Lynne – making sure she got her hugs and kisses and caught up with all the latest news with each and every person there.

Usually, Aunt Lynne and Aunt Belle would come to the reunion a few days early as my mother-in-law’s birthday is July 1st. At that time, the three sisters would pick an evening and they would exchange gifts amongst the three of them to celebrate all three birthdays at the same time.

In 2012, my mother-in-law made lap quilts for her sisters. Aunt Lynne laid hers out on the kitchen table and, like a true fabricaholic, let her fingers do the walking as she felt her way through each and every block and stitch that went into her quilt.

Aunt Lynne and Uncle David were family to me. Especially when I had no family close by. They embraced me and brought me into their fold without a second glance. I was amazed at how quickly they loved me, and the feeling was mutual.

Unfortunately, Aunt Lynne passed away in 2013. She left a big hole in her family’s hearts and lives, and in my family’s, too. We have an extension of my mother-in-law’s landline in our house (we live on her property but in separate houses). We turned off the ringer but we could hear the messages when folks were leaving them. Aunt Lynne was notorious for calling my mother-in-law, and if her answering machine picked up, she would refuse to leave a message. So after she passed away, anytime the message machine picked up and the caller hung up, whoever heard it in our house would say, “Hello, Aunt Lynne!”

Last year, my sister-in-law and I planned an 80th birthday party for my mother-in-law at my mother-in-law’s church’s fellowship hall. That place is like a snare drum and I become an MS mess anytime I’m in there, so we decided it’d be best if we took my power wheelchair with us so no one would have to worry about trying to help me walk out of there. At one point in the party, I stepped outside as the noise was making me incredibly dizzy.

Uncle David must have seen me walk out as he came out to say howdy and to hug my neck. He also said he as glad to see that I had a power wheelchair. He said he was going to offer to give me Aunt Lynne’s scooter but thought my power wheelchair would be able to traverse our hill better than her scooter. I asked him if it needed a special lift or if someone could pick it up to put it in the back end of a truck or SUV? He said they could because it came apart in about five different pieces and none of the individual parts were too heavy, either. So then I asked if he was still willing to gift it to me because we needed a trailer to haul my power wheelchair and sometimes it wasn’t so easy to find parking for.

So when someone who lived in south central Texas went up to north Texas, they brought Aunt Lynne’s scooter back with them. Then they brought it over to me the next time they came to my mother-in-law’s house.

Next it was time for the competition, my power wheelchair vs. Aunt Lynne’s scooter. We live in the beautiful Hill Country in Texas, which means – obviously – we have hills! LOL Our driveway has a bit of a flat spot starting out before it rises. Then it’s an uphill climb from our house to my computer shed (about 300 yds.) and it’s sort of rocky, too. I started with my power wheelchair, it did just fine on the flat part of our driveway but then it totally petered out. It would not, no matter how much ‘gas’ I gave it, move an inch once the driveway started its uphill climb. Next up was Aunt Lynne’s scooter. Since Uncle David didn’t think it would be able to make it up our hilly and rocky driveway, our son made her scooter’s maiden voyage. When he came back home, he told me where to drive it so I didn’t get high centered or tip it over and I hopped on my new (to me) scooter and drove it up to my computer shed. Woo Hoo! I made it and I was pretty sure Aunt Lynne enjoyed our little ride.

Now that it’s summer and as long as rain isn’t in our forecast, Aunt Lynne and I ride up and down the hill on a daily basis. And when we do, I always hear the theme song from Driving Miss Daisy running through my mind!

As we’re coming up on the cusp of the family reunion, I felt this blog post was timely as a remembrance of Aunt Lynne.

She had the last laugh, though. Just this past week, as I was coming up the hill, I hit a rock and accidentally popped a wheelie on our scooter. I could hear her laughing all the way from heaven!




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A Quilted God Moment

Quilt Therapy Posted on April 26, 2018 by TK HarrisonApril 21, 2018

When our oldest daughter graduated from high school, I gifted her with a quilt I’d pieced especially for her. It just so happened that the summer before her senior year of high school, I went to Iowa to visit my (third) foster mother. She purchased all of the fabric for our daughter’s quilt and I cut it out & sewed it together while I was there. Then I left it with her so she could quilt it by hand.

Now here’s a little tidbit you probably didn’t know about our middle daughter – she’s our “what about me?” kid. Every time we would give her older sister something, no matter what it was, she always looked at us with sad puppy dog eyes and said, “What about me?”

About four years ago, she went with me to a quilt shop. While there, she fell in love with two different fabrics. The first was an antique-looking fabric with all sorts of postcards on it. Not the front of the postcards, but the back of them – the messages, addresses, stamps & postage meter stamps. The second fabric did not match the first as it was not antique-looking but it matched the general theme with stamps and postage meter stamps. Where the postcard fabric had a beige background, the stamp fabric had a white background. I purchased a yard of each and stuck them in a stash bin, knowing I would make a quilt for her out of them someday.

I started her quilt the summer before her senior year, too. Except it was one thing after another that year, so it became a UFO in short order. I’d pull it out and work on it, as time would permit, but I couldn’t pull it off in time for her graduation.

It took over a year but about three weeks before she was set to return to college for her sophomore year, she finally asked, “What about my quilt?” I brushed it off, ignored the question, changed the subject, etc. She didn’t ask me again. Then, the day before we were set to take her back to college, I surprised her with her graduation quilt – made out of the fabrics that she’d chosen all those years ago & using the Sawtooth Star quilt block pattern.

Sawtooth Star Quilt

The God moment happened after we started unloading her boxes in her dorm room. Since she had no clue that I was making her a quilt, and no clue what the colors in the quilt were, she had previously purchased sheets for her dorm bed that were the exact same colors as her quilt!

Written with love by TK Harrison




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July 2016 “American Quilter” Article

Quilt Therapy Posted on June 2, 2016 by TK HarrisonMay 29, 2016




I get so very tickled when I see a new issue of American Quilter magazine show up in our mailbox!  My articles in them for 2016 are all written toward a personal passion of mine.  The July issue’s “Year of Giving” article focuses on “No Foster Child Left Behind.”  As many of you may know, I was a foster child from the age of 11 until I turned 18.  There is no better reason to jump in and make quilts for foster kids – they need them, they treasure them, they provide them with a sense of security and they are *always* cherished and loved.  I pray my fellow quilters can join the cause to leave no foster child behind.

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Baboom! Baboom!

Quilt Therapy Posted on March 17, 2016 by TK HarrisonMarch 16, 2016

Our second daughter was a tiny little thing, weighing in under six pounds when she was born. She joined us just a few days before Christmas in 1997 and I was bound and determined to host my husband’s family for the holidays. BC was amazing – sleeping when she should, eating when she needed to and not fussing while the family passed her around.

But, for the first year of that child’s life, she was just not happy unless someone was holding her. It didn’t matter who held her, as long as they held her close. She wasn’t comfortable enough to sleep unless she was swaddled very tightly and held very close to her daddy – under his armpit was the best!  When little beads of perspiration formed on her nose, she was finally able to doze off. And if you kept her warm enough, she slept for a good six hours!

Alas, though, BC never smiled! It did not matter what you did, that baby just had no smiles in her. We’d play with her, all of us laughing and giggling, and she’d just stare at us, like we were from outer space! Sourpuss, that’s what she was.

We’d planned a five-day trip to move from Texas to Utah, where my husband had accepted a new job. I planned and packed and planned some more, as we now had three children from three-years-old to the month-old baby, to care for.  BC was 16-months-old.

On the first day of our moving adventure, BC and her sister were trussed into their car seats, which were strapped into the back-facing third seat of our SUV. They only had each other and the road behind us to entertain themselves.




Mind you, BC not only didn’t smile, she didn’t much talk, either. Her first word was cookie, and that has perfectly suited her personality as she’s still our “eat dessert first” kid. Why eat dinner when there’s dessert? Her second word was daddy. That was it. She had no other words that she spoke, even at 16-months-old.

KB decided she’d have some word fun with BC while we were driving down the Interstate – she’d say a word and wait for BC to repeat it. She started with simple words like cow and car and barn and truck because those were the things she could see out the window. No dice. BC just stared at her big alien sister without making a peep. Then, KB picked up a book that she had and she was showing BC the animals in it, pointing to them and identifying them. She came upon a new photo and said BABOOM. Lo-and-behold, the next thing out of BC’s mouth was BABOOM. We all got excited about this new word that BC had picked up, and that made BC SMILE!

And then it truly got out of hand. For FIVE DAYS, all I heard from those two giggleboxes in the back of the auto was BABOOM, BABOOM, BABOOM! It wasn’t until we reached our final destination that I finally explained to KB that the real pronunciation was BABOON!

We still laugh at how BC’s world changed because of that trip, once she started talking and smiling!




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Stupid Tammy Tricks: Dog 1, TK 0

Quilt Therapy Posted on February 25, 2016 by TK HarrisonFebruary 22, 2016




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Meet Phydeaux (pronounced Fido).  She’s a 13-year-old yellow lab who was a birthday gift to our son when he was just three-years-old.  Son has three sisters, he needed a dog as a faithful companion – someone to pal around with, run in the fields with, sleep with and be loved unconditionally by.

Phydeaux has lived a pretty good life.  At this point, she’s beyond the ‘normal’ age range for labs.  She’s had a stroke in the past two years, she cannot run around without taking a few hours to finally catch her breath and her tummy is not very stable – but she’s still a pretty good dog.

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This past weekend, my husband and kids went camping, leaving me home alone with minimal supervision (my MIL was just up the hill from our house, if I needed anything).  Which left me in charge of all of the family pets – two dogs and a turtle.  I’m a champ when it comes to taking care of the turtle!  Feed him twice a day, turn on his light in the morning and turn it off in the evening.

Our other dog is our oldest daughter’s dog.  She is a scrappy terrier mix who was a rescue.  She’s six-years-old and still has a lot of vim and vigor in her.  She’s not too difficult to supervise, especially when there’s treats and lots of belly rubs throughout the day.

Now, once a day, my husband lets the dogs out for something he calls a fun run.  He doesn’t supervise them very much but lets them have some time outside to burn off some energy, chase rabbits or armadillos and just give them a chance to sniff everything and anything.  The only reason he may have to call one of them back to the house is if they are headed to our compost heap.

When I am in charge of the dogs, they rarely listen to me.  They go out and come back in pretty quickly in the mornings and then in the evenings (when they know there are food or treats involved).  It’s those hours between breakfast and bedtime, when I’m home alone, where they challenge my authority EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

Last weekend?  Phydeaux was the naughty doggie.  ARGH

I let the dogs out before lunch on Saturday. Now, having MS, I’m not too steady on my feet when I’m not in the house where there are things for me to hold onto – and I cannot use a cane because the right side of my body will always be out of whack from of a huge dead spot in my brain. I could see Phydeaux over near my husband’s garden but every time I called her, she moved further and further away from me. I finally got off the deck and go to get her. And the closer I get, the further away she went.

Her goal? The compost heap, of course. And with her rumbly tummy, I was *not* prepared to clean up dog gak all weekend. Her stroke has affected her hearing in one ear but the other hears just fine…when she wants to.

I start walking perpendicular to her and almost catch up with her…when I realize that at some point, my slipper fell off of my foot. I don’t have much feeling in my feet so is easy to throw a shoe without my knowing it. I look back and see my slipper – except it’s turned the wrong direction for me to slip my foot into it easily and it’s also surrounded by thistles. I finally deduce that I can take one or two steps toward it and then pick it up and put it back on my foot. Well, then I encounter MS issue #gazillion – if my head gets lower than my hind end, I get extremely dizzy (again, that dead spot in my brain is the cause). And just like that, I got dizzy and literally fell on top of my slipper as well as the thistles.

And Phydeaux is still taking a leisurely stroll toward the compost heap. ARGH

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